One day I got the idea for my husband and I to take the Five Love Languages quiz. If you are unfamiliar with the Five Love Languages, it’s a book by Dr. Gary Chapman about the way we love. The love languages are Words of affirmation, Acts of service, Receiving gifts, Quality time, and Physical touch. As individuals we all show love in different ways, and like to receive love in different ways.
Like many women I love to receive compliments and hear sweet words. Words of affirmation is my top love language. It turns out that it was ranked four out of five for my husband. His top love language is Acts of service. His way of showing me that he loves me and that he thinks I’m beautiful is by doing nice things for me. This also explains why he doesn’t react as excited as I expect him to when I compliment him, but doing something as little as making him a special dinner puts the biggest smile on his face.
I learned that although our love languages aren’t exactly the same, Acts of service and quality time are ranked within our top three. I suspect that this is a big part of the close bond we have. We also both prefer physical touch over receiving gifts.
So what is it that you do after you and your partner receive your love language results, and realize that you might be a little different? You Compromise!
I used to get a little upset when I’d get dressed up and my husband would say “You look nice”. I wanted him to say “You look amazing”, “You look Beautiful”, and “I’m so proud to have you on my arm”. The reality is that words of affirmation isn’t his top love language, so it’s not the top way he shows love. But that doesn’t mean he loves me any less or doesn’t think I’m beautiful.
It turns out that just a little bit of communication completely turned things around. He understood why sweet compliments are important to me, and expressed himself better with words. I began to do more acts of service for him, because at the end of the day we both just want to make each other happy.
This was actually my first blog post, and I think now it deserves a second shot. Thank you for reading, and if you’ve read the love languages book or quiz I’d love to hear what you think ❤️